Heaven won’t be without families but will be one big family, in which all family members are friends and all friends are family members. We’ll have family relationships with people who were our blood family on Earth. But we’ll also have family relationships with our friends, both old and new.  We can’t take material things with us when we die, but we do take our friendships to Heaven, and one day they’ll be renewed.

Many of us treasure our families. But many others have endured a lifetime of brokenheartedness stemming from twisted family relationships. In Heaven neither we nor our family members will cause pain. Our relationships will be harmonious, what we’ve longed for.

When someone told Jesus that His mother and brothers wanted to see Him, He replied, “My mother and brothers are those who hear God’s Word and put it into practice.” (Luke 8:19-21)  Jesus was saying that devotion to God creates a bond transcending biological family ties.  Jesus also said that those who follow Him will gain “brothers, sisters, mothers, children.” (Mark 10:29-30)  I think of this when I experience an immediate depth of relationship with a fellow Christian I’ve just met.

If you weren’t able to have children on Earth or if you’ve been separated from your children , both now and later God will give you relationships that will meet your needs to guide, help, serve, and invest in others. Your parental longings will be fulfilled. If you’ve never had a parent you could trust, you’ll find trustworthy parents everywhere in Heaven, reminding you of your Father (God). And you can start with some of those relationships here.

So, it’s not at all true that there will be “no family in Heaven.” On the contrary, there will be one great family, and none of us will ever be left out. Every time we see someone, it will be a family reunion.

WILL THERE BE MARRIAGE IN HEAVEN?

One group of religious leaders, the Sadducees, tried to trick Jesus with a question about marriage in Heaven. They didn’t believe in the resurrection of the dead. Attempting to make Him look foolish, they told Jesus of a woman who had seven husbands who all died. They asked Him, “Now then, at the resurrection, whose wife will she be of the seven, since all of them were married to her?” (Matthew 22:28)

Christ replied, “At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the Angels in Heaven.” (Matthew 22:30)

There’s a great deal of regret and misunderstanding about this passage. A woman wrote me, “I struggle with the idea that there won’t be marriage in Heaven. I believe I’ll really miss it.”

But the Bible does not teach there will be no marriage in Heaven. In fact, it makes clear there will be marriage in Heaven. What it says is that there will be one marriage, between Christ and His Bride, and we’ll all be part of it. Paul links human marriage to the higher reality it mirrors: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery, but I an talking about Christ and the Church.” (Ephesians 5:31-32)

The one-flesh marital union we know on Earth is a signpost pointing to our relationship with Christ as our Bridegroom. Once we reach the destination, the signpost becomes unnecessary. That one marriage, our marriage to Christ, will be so completely satisfying that even the most wonderful earthly marriage couldn’t be as fulfilling.

Earthly marriage is a shadow, a copy, an echo of the true and ultimate marriage. Once that ultimate marriage begins, at the Lamb’s Wedding Feast, all the human marriages that pointed to it will have served their noble purpose and will be assimilated into the one great marriage they foreshadowed. “The purpose of marriage is not to replace Heaven, but to prepare us for it.”

Here on Earth we long for a perfect marriage. That’s exactly what we’ll have, a perfect marriage with Christ.  My wife, Nanci, is my best friend and my closest sister in Christ. Will we become more distant in the New World? Of course not, we’ll become closer, I’m convinced. The God who said, “It is not good for the man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18), is the giver and blesses of our relationships. Life on this earth matters. What we do here touches strings that reverberate for all Eternity. Nothing will take away from the fact that Nanci and I are marriage partners here and that we invest so much of our lives in each other, serving Christ together. I fully expect no one besides God will understand me better on the New Earth, and there’s nobody whose company I’ll seek and enjoy more than Nanci’s.

The joys of marriage will be far greater because of the character and love of our bridegroom. I rejoice for Nanci and for me that we’ll both be married to the most wonderful person in the Universe. He’s already the one we love most, there is no competition. On Earth, the closer we draw to Him, the closer we draw to each other. Surely the same will be true in Heaven. What an honor it will be to always know that God chose us for each other on this old Earth so that we might have a foretaste of life with Him on the New Earth.

People with good marriages are each other’s best friends. There’s no reason to believe they won’t still be best friends in heaven.

Jesus said the institution of human marriage would end, having fulfilled its purpose. But He never hinted that deep relationships between married people would end. In our lives here, two people can be business partners, tennis partners, or pinochle partners. But when they’re no longer partners, it doesn’t mean their friendship ends. The relationship built during one kind of partnership often carries over to a permanent friendship after the partnership has ended. I expect that to be true on the New Earth for family members and friends who stood by each other here.

God usually doesn’t replace His original Creation, but when he does, he replaced it with something that is far better, never worse. Being married to Christ will be the ultimate thrill.
 
So, we will have marriage and family in Heaven. Those to whom we're closest on Earth, including in many cases our earthly family, will naturally comprise the core relationships we'll begin with in Heaven. We'll bring to heaven our memories, and those memories connect us to people. From there we will work outward, developing new friendships withour ever losing the old ones.

Heaven is where our ultimate family and best friends will be, including many we don't know yet. Our relationships with loved ones will be better than ever. Heaven is a place of gain, not loss. In fact, you may not yet have met the best friend you’ll ever have!

 
WHAT ABOUT OUR CHILDREN?

What about my relationship to my daughters and sons-in-law and closest friends? There’s every reason to believe we’ll pick right up in Heaven with relationships from Earth. We’ll gain many new ones but will continue to deepen the old ones. I think we’ll especially enjoy connecting with those we faced tough times with on Earth and saying, “Did you ever imagine Heaven would be so wonderful?”

The notion that relationships with family and friends will be lost in Heaven, though common, is unbiblical. It denies the clear doctrine of continuity between this life and the next and suggests our earthly lives and relationships have no eternal consequence. It completely contradicts Paul’s intense anticipation of being with the Thessalonians and his encouraging them to look forward to rejoining their loved ones in Heaven.

W Graham Scroggie wrote, “If I knew that never again would I recognize that beloved one with whom I spent more than thirty-nine years here on earth, my anticipation of Heaven would much abate. To say that we shall be with Christ and that that will be enough, is to claim that there we shall be without the social instincts and affections which mean so much to us here… Life beyond cannot mean impoverishment, but the enhancement and enrichment of life as we have known it here at its best.”